Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

Wednesday, February 3, 2010

Baby Front Pack

I was sold before I entered the shop. My parenting 'bible' extolled the virtues of a baby carrier - it would free up both my hands and my time.

The box, of the brand my husband chose, depicted all the things I'd soon be able to do - I couldn't wait!

Once home we read the instructions and figured out how to wear it. Good for us!

Over the next few days I put baby in it for a few minutes at a time until she seemed happy and comfortable. Good for her!

Then it was time to get on with the chores. Hmm... Should I do some laundry or get dinner started?

Neither as it turns out.

It is very hard to load/unload a front loading washing machine in a small laundry with a baby strapped to your chest. And I wouldn't recommend hanging out the washing unless your baby enjoys being slapped in the face by a wet towel. As it turned out mine doesn't.

As for cooking, you better get everything out of the fridge before you grab bubs unless she enjoys the blast of chill air when you open the door. And beware the steam facial baby could receive when you take the lid of a pot or open the oven.

Something more sedentary perhaps?

Try typing with a baby where your keyboard normally is. Sure you can move the keyboard but you'd better be a touch typist because you won't be able to see it.

Have a cup of coffee or use the phone? Nope, not a good idea. The top of baby's head is only inches from your mouth and she will be grabbing and/or knocking everything that comes within reach.

Why I'm still glad I have a front pack
I'm glad to say we didn't totally waste our money. A baby carrier (or sling) is great for crowded or busy places like fairs or exhibitions. It's much easier to move about, and annoys fewer people, than a bulky stroller in cramped surroundings.

It is also ideal for public transport especially boarding and disembarking from a plane or taking the bus. I must confess I take baby on the train in her stroller. I just take care to travel outside of peak times and make sure I'm get in a car that has been adapted for wheelchairs so I can flip the seat up and park baby in that space. The train guards are always super helpful - giving a hand to lift the stroller on and off the train.

Flying with baby
Getting back to planes and flying, if you want to know the ins and outs of flying with baby check out what Air New Zealand have to say:

I found this information as helpful as it was hard to find.

If you are flying as a family self check in together so all your baggage allowances are processed together.

You'll probably have to put the stroller through as oversize luggage (ie in a bag provided by the Air NZ) - this is when a baby carrier comes into its own.

Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Why new mums shouldn't multitask

Before our first and only child arrived I did a lot of reading to prepare myself.

Almost every article or book assured me that, though I might struggle at first, I'd soon be multitasking my parenting with normal daily life.

Not so.

Baby is now 8 months old and I have never been able to 'change a nappy in [my] sleep' or 'breastfeed baby while reading a book in one hand' as one parenting guide promised.

In fact I think my baby is allergic to multitasking. She knows when she is not getting the attention she deserves and will employ every tool she has to remind me of my priorities.

Trying to multitask just caused me to feel stressed. I was:
  • continually frustrated that I wasn't able to get stuck in to a task
  • starting to resent baby for interrupting me

Obviously this was not good for either of us.

I think that as mothers we are biologically geared to want to soothe our babies. Resisting the urge to see to baby's needs for another 30 seconds so I could finish an email, eat my sandwich, hang out the laundry etc just resulted in baby becoming grisly and me becoming stressed.

What’s the solution?
See to baby’s needs first - single task.

Save your chores for when she is playing, sleeping or in the care of someone else. And don’t feel the least bit guilty:

Cleaning and scrubbing can wait 'till tomorrow,
for babies grow up, much to our sorrow.
So quiet down cobweb-dust, go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.

If you're not familiar with this verse before you can read Song for a Fifth Child on Fluffy Pink Duck's Blogspot here. It was written by Ruth Hulburt Hamilton and published in The Ladies' Home Journal in 1938!

So, the house will get messy. Throw everything in an empty drawer or box and put it out of sight until you (or someone else) have the time to go through it. The friend coming round for coffee can pick up some milk on her way.

Further reading
How NOT to Multitask – Work Simpler and Saner

What is NOT the solution?
Carrying baby in a front pack! I'll explain why this didn't work for me in a later post.